Being Family Focused
Sometimes just focusing on ‘my family’ meaning Mac, Baby and I, not even including my Brother and parents, is really hard for me. Really hard. But I’m learning that sometimes it is necessary. I’m the type of person who wants to help everyone I love. I always want to say yes and help everyone out. There have been a few times since we have been married that Mac has had to sit me down and actually tell me “Amber our life is too busy/stressed/whatever right now and we can’t take anything else on.”
You know what, he is right. Most of the time its ok to be the yes girl, but not all the time. Sometimes you need to be family focused, sometimes life is big enough that it needs your full attention in one direction. When I got married that didn’t make my family un-important but it did change the priority a little. God, Ryan and the Baby, My Family then Friends. I’m trying really hard to learn this one….I don’t always get it right but I’m getting better. I’ve done a pretty good job of not scheduling anything the last 7 weeks of this pregnancy only Baby Showers at this point lets hope I can stick to that..
How about you do you have a hard time being family focused? I have a feeling this will get easier for me when the baby arrives.
Ah, the “yes” girl. I’m one of those too and Jason is always sitting me down and giving me the talk about how I don’t need to say “yes” to things if I don’t have the time or the energy to to things.
It’s a bit easier for me to be family focused with Jason and the kids since they are the only stable things I have here in Japan. Friends come and go a lot which is an unfortunate part of the expat lifestyle. I still do occasionally get requests for things (from family and friends) over email or skype but they’re usually computer related things that I can do in my own time without the constant nagging and complaints.