I will say right off the bat this is going to be a hard one for people to hear. Thanks OK, that’s kind of the point really.
Marriage is a sacred and very special relationship. Many people go into it thinking that “once we are married everything will be perfect” HA! I’m not saying it isn’t great, I’m not saying I’m not happy to be married, I’m simply saying its not perfect and if you think it will be your i going to be your in for a world of hurt.
Marriage is work, the best marriages out there have worked for it. Maybe they haven’t spent time reading books and going to conferences but they have taken the time to study one another. To really know there spouses likes, dislikes, quarks, positives and negatives. They have stepped up and taken charge of their marriage. They see it as a long time commitment and work to see it though.
Our spouses aren’t perfect either, they have problems and weakness. Sometimes we just need to be the strong one in a specific area when the other is weak, budgeting for example. But sometimes we need to step in and correct an area that may be detrimental to themselves, others or the marriage. This is hard, really hard but sometimes it needs to be done. Maybe I’ll talk later about how to do this, to be honest I don’t really know, but if there is an area that needs attention the by all means address it. Talk to a close friend or mentor, a pastor or elder if you are comfortable. Seek guidance and above all else pray!
We all, yes all of us need to step up in our marriages, its our lives no one else’s, no one else is going to swoop in and tell you what to do and when to do it to have the ‘perfect’ marriage. We need to pray, ask for guidance, and study our spouse. We need to step up.