I’ve come to realize that there are some people reading this blog who didn’t know me 2 years ago so I thought I would give a brief synopsis just so that some of my posts makes sense.
I’m really not sure where to start. I had a pretty normal childhood I was lucky enough to have my parents stay together, I think the only thing that might be abnormal was that I lived in 7 different houses in 3 cities by my sophomore year. I was picked on, diagnosed with ADHD (one of the first girls) and struggled with that for a while. But by high school I had it pretty much together. I knew who I was and even though what other people said hurt, I didn’t let it change me.
My senior year I started dating Mark we were engaged in August, and married the next June. I had only been 19 for a month. At the age of 20 we had purchased our first home and after I graduated collage as a sign language interpreter life was going pretty good. The summer after I graduated Mark was diagnosed with a VERY RARE form of cancer (thymus carcinoid not thymic) stage 4 it had already spread everywhere knees up elbows in. Including his brain. There was one on his right ocular nerve that gave him double vision and that symptom is how we found it. We spent a year driving 4 hours to the Mayo clinic and having various treatments. Later we moved closer to the hospital Mark wanted and he found a new job working at the same company as his brother (PTL) we continued for 2 years of treatments and doctors appts but they didn’t really affect our lives too much. Then it started creating respiratory problems, O2 started in September or so and on December 10th 2007 he passed away. Obviously there is alot more to this story, for the blog I had then go here: http://mhoftyzer.spaces.live.com/
I just got married again this July, Hubby is amazing!! He is such a godsend. He understands my baggage and is so very encouraging. One lasting ‘issue’ I’ve had since Mark passed was the crazy notion that I can only be happy when I make those around me happy. Not a great way to live, he has been my “Jesus with skin on” helping me work on this. He is also teaching me how to relax. We haven’t had too many adventures yet (except our great honeymoon) we are just trying to settle in and renovate the house. I look forward to many many years together!
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Wow. Thank you for sharing. I am so very sorry for what happened.
Words can not express…