“Remember people aren’t perfect”
When we got married it was to a human and like it or not someday they will prove to not be as perfect as we thought. We have to remind ourselves in good faith that our spouse isn’t intentionally trying to hurt us. When he gets crabby and has a headache he isn’t mad at me he just doesn’t feel good. We need to learn how to decipher when an emotion is directed toward us and when it is just a result of not feeling good or having a bad day at work.
On the flip side we also need to watch ourselves and guard our mouths and actively try to reign ourselves in when we notice that we are snapping or getting down on people for something that isn’t their fault.